HELLO NEIGHBOR!

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That's me waving from the center of the bottom row with my dad and sister looking from above, amongst my neighbors and family friends. I grew up in an eastern European midwest ghetto in the 50s when most things were learned through osmosis and eavesdropping. Discussions worldwide? Who would have thunk?

I invite you to join my neighborhood of thought and I will be honored when you do. If anything you read on this page propels you to want to add something to the mix, please let your presence be known by placing your message on the comment form below. Please include questions and sparks for future entries you would like to see, related to all things social/emotional and, frankly, what isn't?

THANKS!

Here is my new year's perceptual stream, presented at a 2012 eve salon @ the home of Bill and Rodger--the quintessential hosts! I captured it earlier that day and poured it out to a collection of expressive folks just before midnight...

WITH YOU

©2011 Pamela Sackett


This is going to be good
how do I know?
my intent doesn't make it so

this is going to be bad
how do I know?
my fear doesn't make it so

this is going to be
this is going to be
this is going to be what?!
My moon-blessed amygdalae wants to know
which direction
the next wind will blow

this is going to be hope
that's the truth
I've got proof
I am always kneeling

this is going to
going to
going to
flow over rocks and snow
to where I do not know
and full of feeling

here's a kiss goodbye to my assumptions
the ones that lie
and lead me to believe
that past experience is the source
of what all can ever be conceived
what can be right now and on
can not be believed
by my habitual, familiarity-safe self

I open my arms to dark expanse
I make ready my hands for sculpting new
and steady my heart to approach every chance
I want to share those chances with you

BLAME THE BRAIN!

Here's a pretty ample reason why active understanding of NUANCE and a certain kind of EMPATHY remains the exception...blame the brain!

Read what Antonio Damasio, the David Dornsife Professor of Neuroscience at USC and the director of USC's Brain and Creativity Institute said on NPR's "All Things Considered:"

"It probably took longer in evolution to get to a stage in which human beings could look at another human being, not see anything externally wrong with them, but imagine that there was something quite "wrong" (my quotes) in terms of their feelings, in terms of their mental pain," he says.

Damasio says people still aren't born with this sort of compassion. They have to learn it...

...the USC team found that the brain had to work a lot harder to react to another person's psychological pain than to physical pain.

Damasio says brain scans showed that even the most complex psychological emotions engaged many of the same brain systems that responded to physical states.

That suggests these emotions "go deep in our brain and they also go deep in our body, in our flesh," he says.

Mary Helen Immordino-Yang,(a cognitive neuroscientist and educational psychologist who studies the brain bases of emotion, social interaction and culture and their implications for development and schools), notes that it took the brain up to six seconds to react to a complex emotion like emotional pain, while reactions to physical pain occurred almost instantly. Reactions to emotional pain also took much longer to dissipate.

That raises questions about the effects of news programs and video games in which a traumatic psychological event may flash by in a just a second or two, Damasio says.

He says that might not be long enough for children who are still learning compassion.

"What if it is happening to a child who does not have parents or a guardian around who can say, well, 'Wait a minute, there are terrible implications for the person who just underwent that particular event'?" Damasio says.

Without that sort of help, some children may not acquire the full range of compassion for other people (or themselves, says I), Damasio says. They also might not develop admiration for people who do virtuous things.

Damasio says that would be a big problem because compassion and admiration help anchor moral systems — and society itself.

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Still with me? What do you think about adding brain work-outs to a Global Fitness Program, so we can achieve self-empathy and out of control kindness on the planet?

 

Comments:

Posted by Christina on
Pamela, your analysis and assertions are very much in harmony with the efforts being made on the ground in preparation for our school year here at Roosevelt HS in Seattle. The challenges we face with students who are not achieving are often invisible and so easily ignored. In meetings, we try to grow our empathy (like a fragile, oversensitive plant) through the intellect -- ie we look at data, we consider models, we struggle to make fair policy -- but sometimes I wonder if our approach to growing empathy is an overuse of fertilizing facts. Why not be more organic??? Why not reduce class size, enable teachers to have long lasting relationships with students, eliminte "grading" and "scoring". Do you think there is something inherently un-empathetic about our school system?
Posted by pamela on
You have shed a ray of sunshine into the forum. Thanks!
Posted by Pilar Stella on
Hi Pamela
It was great to meet you when you were in Santa Monica!
I hope we cross paths!
Shoot me an email so we can cross paths.
;) p
Posted by Moti on
So much food for thought!!!! My own mind traveled far and wide as I read your rich words Pamela.
It made me think of a recent day I spent substitute teaching in rural New Mexico at a high school that has a lot of "gang banger" energy running amok. I was so struck by the force of some of the girls who decided to try to scare the hell out of me. I took it for a few long and painful moments....then I walked up to them and asked (in some accent I seemed to be channeling from some emotional ghetto)....my finger waving back and forth at them..."How can you hate me like that? You don't even know me?" They were shocked. And silenced and and then confused and then meek. And then safe and then...asking me to show them how to draw more realistically.
What shocks me...is how anyone can project such violent hatred at another human and not even realize it has an effect.
Now when I sub...I always hold up my hand in a "stop" sign...and tell whoever is doing that to me...gently, calmly and potently to "Get your hatred off of me." They are stunned initially....just to hear forbidden words of protest against crimes I have no doubt they too have endured. It is quite miraculous to see the classrooms turn into places of sanctity and safety...just through the simple act of emotional/mental advocacy.
Thanks you SO much Miss Pamela...for extending your heart and soul to us all!
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